|The Lessons Osho Taught Me About Love, Life and Relationships
Posted by Osho World Foundation Saturday, January 20, 2018 at 15:40
|True to the cover page of the book, I too have been creating my own path to freedom for the past 10 years. I started reading more of Osho, attending mediation camps in Dharamsala and Najafgarh and Ė what worked best for me Ė playing his audio discourses in my car while commuting.
I am a very slow reader. Sometimes, I can take months to finish a book. But I still remember finishing that 270-page-book in one day. I just kept reading and reading and reading. Perhaps, that day, the book gave me an escape from all the other troubles I was going through.
But hereís how I would like to see the day, looking backwards: That day, through that book, Osho chose to be my life coach, my guru. Itís true that in a guru, we seek help and guidance, but itís also true that the guru chooses us. And I am blessed to have been chosen by Osho!
People often question me about all the controversies attached to Oshoís life and work. Honestly, I have always kept myself away from reading about that, and it has never affected me. Once, on Twitter, when I raised an environmental issue related to a spiritual guruís organisation, I was trolled and abused. One person wrote. ďYour guru has died, now you have a problem with other gurus.Ē My reply was, ďSir, abuse my guru as much as you want . I will not abuse you back. Thatís the test of his teachings and my learnings.Ē
So let me share some of the lessons I have learnt from Osho and have tried to imbibe in my life:-
Be Responsible for Your Own Happiness, Peace and Freedom
Often we become so dependent on our relationships, on people who we claim to love, that our loved ones start controlling our lives and we try to control theirs. More often than not, our love relationships, whether husband-wife, parents-child or any other, is more about power play. And there is no happiness, no peace and of course no freedom at all. Do not give the remote control of your life in someone elseís hands and do not take theirs in your hands either.
If You Really Love Someone, Love them Unconditionally
Osho says we love only those who are OURS. And thatís not Love. So often we see relationships breaking up and people talking negatively and rubbish about each other. Which means that there was no love in the first place. Because if you genuinely loved someone at one point of your life, even if it was for a short period, you can never speak ill of the person even after the love is gone. Love should be like a fragrance of the flower called relationship. Even after the flower dies, the fragrance should stay.
Love and Respect Yourself First
There are two advantages of practicing this. First, if we love and respect ourselves, we donít seek it from others. If we get love and respect from others, itís great, but even if we donít get it, we are still happy because we love ourselves. Second, if we love and respect ourselves, we naturally become loving and respectful towards others. So, if all of us become compassionate towards ourselves, imagine how the world would change!
Happiness Should Be a Natural State of Your Being
Osho says itís OK to feel sad, itís absolutely fine to cry, to sulk, to feel all emotions like anger, jealousy etc. But one must always be CONSCIOUS of their emotions, their state of being, their thoughts and keep bringing them back to the state of happiness and peace. Because, thatís where you ultimately belong.
Donít Take Your Life Too Seriously
Try to surrender and be more accepting. This is one lesson that I keep forgetting, but it keeps coming back to me whenever there is a crisis in my life. We all take ourselves too seriously, and Osho says, you are just a part of the drama. Look at yourself as a character on stage. Let things happen, let people come and go, let the scenes unfold. You just WATCH. I know this is one of his toughest messages, and itís NOT EASY to give up on that ownership that we all feel towards our lifeÖ Itís not easy for me too, but I am still learning and working on it.
Forgive, Forget and Let Go
Let go of negative situations, people and thoughts. Forgive yourself too. Stop feeling guilty of the mistakes you may have made. Learn from them and move on. Itís not the end of the world.
There are many more lessons that I am still learning from him and I shall never learn enough. All of us are on a journey, we really donít know whatís coming our way, but we can definitely try to make our journey more interesting, more enjoyable, by keeping one simple thought in mind ó life is beautiful.
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