This month let us honor the most eXclusive letter X, a letter used in words of eXcellence like deluXe, luXury, and seX. This eXacting treasure-map letter seems to mark eXclamatory eXperiences and eXtraordinary finds of eXuberant good.
For decades, Enlightened Mystic Osho has been wrongly labeled as the “sex guru.” It was an easy headline moniker, overused by the media, too lazy to do their homework. Osho wanted us to understand the bigger picture of sexuality as the first rung of the ladder climbing towards love, compassion, and eventually, Divine consciousness. He used sex as the device that it is, showing us how to witness, empty out, and eventually, drop the mind. Osho helped us understand that the human SEXPERIENCE is purely SEXISTENTIAL.
When I was a budding 13-year-old, I was invited to babysit the children of a Christian Baptist ministerand hisbleached-blonde wife. They introduced me to their two kids, spoke the rules, and left the house. Much to my amazement, I soon found a Christian Sex Manual hidden under their sofa cushion. This kind of book was absolutely unheard of in the midwestern United States. Thinking it was a “National Geographic,” I tugged on the book’s corner, and Voila! Suddenly I was liking the church very very much, at least for the next two hours. I hurried the children outside to play as I absorbed this sweet information that shook me to the core. There were even graphic pictures, creative positions, in-your-face body parts, and everything was labeled! WOW! This wonderful book told me that good sex was pleasing to the Lord! Hallelujah! Grinning from ear to ear, I was thrilled to have this secret treasure that openly advised becoming knowledgeable about and comfortable with S E X ! The book even said sex is NATURAL. WOW! To fulfill my babysitting duties, I kept throwing cookies to the children in the backyard so they would go away and let me read. But this was way more than reading, it was jaw-dropping epiphany, an existential re-mapping of my central nervous system and soul. I absorbed the new truth so fast that I was ready to pop.
When I heard the kinky couple returning home, I quickly stuffed the “HOW TO” book back in the sofa cushion and sat up very straight, completely wired. With new eyes, I welcomed the “Fucking Baptists” back home. I assured them the afternoon was without incident. And yes, so sorry, the children ate too many cookies. (thinking to myself…hmmm…they really do that…WOW!).
Skipping home in absolute awe, I wondered why no one EVER talked about sex. Did anyone else in the small town know what I knew? Inspired to start practicing right away, I wanted the Lord to be happy with me! And He was! Driving my own body to pleasure was way more exciting than learning to drive a car! (and that was REALLY fun).
This divinely orchestrated reading assignment came from a very loving Existence. If this precious book had not found me as a tender pre-teen, I would have grown up in the same pool of dead possibilities as my repressed FOO (family of origin). Early on, this unlikely book was a miraculous education from Life for a healthy experience of sexual energy. I was uniquely fortunateto receive thissecret initiation. Existence gave me permission and instructions to rise from the cultural dead zone to really enjoymy natural, human, sexual energy, the life force. Life gave me a big boost to question the caves and graves of repression. As Osho says:
“The function of the Master is to call forth: ‘Lazarus, come out of the cave! Come out of your grave! Come out of your death!’”
Sexuality is a prime way we express YES to being alive and being human. It’s what made us and what runs us, yet everyone pretends, after centuries of shrouded secrets, that sex is something other than who we are. Go to any church or any bank, and you will see a seemingly asexual group. Where does SEX go when it is not present?Polyester suits and polite manners hide it so well. But who are we kidding? DOING IT or BEING IT, see where sexual energy leads in creativity, insight, and love.
“…Never enforce any celibacy on yourself. Try to understand what sexuality is, go deep into it. It has a tremendous beauty of its own. It is one of the profoundest mysteries of life. Life comes out of it — it has to be a great mystery. Sex is not sin; repression is a sin. Sex is very natural, very spontaneous. You have not done anything to have it, it is inborn, it is part of your being. Don’t condemn it, don’t judge it, don’t fear it, don’t fight with it.”
In a world of rapidly advancing nano-technology, we are still completely primitive in understanding our greatest spiritual technology, sexuality. As a deeply confused society gorging on de-naturedsex media, the possibility of learning the sacredness of sex is slim to none. Television programs feature stripped-mined sex, and evenclassic novels are being RE-WRITTEN BY ENTREPRENEURS TO ADD SEX SCENES, to increase sales inthe mass romance market.Publishers and producers know that consumers still believe sex is a forbidden commodityto be sneaked or stolen instead of a lovely intimate experience to be enjoyed as beautiful, lively, electrical, and sacred. Why do we still categorize our most natural energies as forbidden?CRAZY! Sex is our fuel, and the only jump-start on a sacred journey to the Divine. In the words of the Master:
“Not only are children born out of your sexual energy, but everything that man has created on the earth has come out of sexual energy. Sexual energy can have many transformations: at the lowest it is biological; at the highest it is spiritual. It has to be understood that all creative people are highly sexual. You can see the poets, you can see the painters, you can see the dancers. All creative people are highly sexual, and the same is true about the people whom I call the mystics. Perhaps they are the most sexual people on the earth, because they are so full of life energy, abundant, overflowing….”
Think of how our sexual “software” programming influences our daily lives as men and women.According to the Zohar mystics, a woman’s breasts contain god, and are, in fact, G_D. Yet almost every woman feelsinsultedin conversation when a man stares at her breasts and talks totheminstead of HER.Osho helped me to understand that the breast is a man’s first universe, our first combination of love and food and warm safety. A man misses his mother’s intimacy and nourishment. He didn’t get enough. He would so love to connect in present time, but he lacks courage and communication skills. As girls we are taught to expect men will be disrespectful (and some are). But what if women were taught that we carry so much god and love that men are literally undone by our presence and even thirst for us?If we were taught how to handle a strong current, we would be expanded by that current without feeling insulted. Instead, we are taught that our breasts are premium real estate, and that our genitals are goals in a game about trespassing. After a first date in America, a teenager girl is often asked, “Did he get to first base, second base, or third base?” This kind of setup with baseball game imagery demolishes the wondrous beauty of the sexual current and the tender, afraid hearts involved. What if we celebrated puberty on a river of words from the Awakened One:
“Simply go into it more — more meditatively. Let it happen in such silence, in such deep acceptance, that you can know the very core of it. The moment you penetrate to the very core of sexual orgasm you will see sex is losing its appeal for you, your energy is moving in a higher plane, you are becoming more loving and less sexual. And this happens spontaneously.
I am not saying become more loving. I am saying that if you go deep into the mystery of sex, love arises out of it naturally. You become more loving and sexuality becomes less and less and less. And one day there is just a pure flame of love, all the smoke of sex has disappeared. The crude energy of sex has been transformed into a more subtle perfume — the perfume of love.
Then I will say go deep into love. If you go deep into love, again you will come to the very core of it. And in that moment prayer will arise. That too happens spontaneously. In sex you are more concerned with the body; in love you are more concerned with the psyche; in prayer you suddenly become concerned with the soul. These are the three possibilities hidden in the seed of sex. And when sex has disappeared into love and love has disappeared into prayer, there is a spontaneous celibacy.”
Sex is truly the most mysterious human treasure. The human sexperience is a fleeting Holy Grail that confounds most of us-- most of the time. Gurus say the nature of desire is such that it can never be fulfilled. Desire willonlyjump to a new object. So witness the mind!In the words of movie action hero Indiana Jones, lecturing to his archaeology students abouttreasure maps:
“ ‘X’ never, ever marks the spot.”