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Great Qualities Are Feminine

Times of India, New Delhi, 3 March, 2013

Let all gender distinctions disappear, says OSHO

All great qualities are feminine — love, compassion, sympathy, kindness. Male qualities of the warrior are hard qualities; one has to be like steel. Because man’s qualities have developed through war, and female qualities have developed at home, in the garden of love, with husband and children — she has lived in a totally different world. Man has lived continuously fighting. In three thousand years, there have been five thousand wars on earth — as if killing is man’s only profession.

The world has lived in two parts. Man has made his own world while the woman has lived in a shadow — she has created her own world in the shadow. But man or woman, to be complete, whole, must have all the qualities together. Both men and women should be as soft as rose petals and as hard as a sword. If the situation needs you to be a sword, you are ready; if it needs you to be just a rose petal, you are ready. This flexibility — between rose petal and sword — will enrich your life. This goes for all other qualities as well.

Two Parts Of A Whole
Man and woman are two parts of one whole; their world should also be one whole, and they should share all qualities — no quality should be stamped as feminine or masculine.

When you make somebody masculine, that person loses great things in his life. He becomes juiceless, he becomes stale, hard, almost dead. And the woman who completely forgets how to be hard, how to be a rebel, is bound to become a slave, because she has only soft qualities. Now, roses cannot fight with swords, they will be crushed, destroyed. A total human being has not been born yet. There have been men and women, but not complete human beings.

My approach is to bring the whole human to earth — with all the beautiful qualities of woman and with all the courageous, rebellious, adventurous qualities of man. And they should all be part of one whole.
From the very beginning, we start telling children... A small boy, if he wants to play with toys like girls, we immediately stop him — “Shame; you are a boy, you are a man, don’t be girlish.” If a girl tries to climb a tree, we stop her immediately: “This is not ladylike, climbing a tree, this is for boys — rough. You just come down!”

For Nature, Everyone’s Alike
From the very beginning, we start dividing man and woman into parts. Both suffer — because climbing a tree has a joy of its own; no woman should miss it. To be on top of a tree when the wind is strong, in the sun, with the birds singing...if you have not been to that point, you have missed something. And just because you are a woman. Strange...
To be adventurous — to climb mountains, swim the oceans — should not be prevented just because you are a woman, because that thrill is something spiritual.

A man should not be prevented if he wants to cry. Then he cannot bring tears — tears are only for women: “You are a man; behave like a man!” And tears are such a beautiful experience. In deep sadness or in great joy whenever something is overflowing, tears give expression to it. And if tears are repressed, at the same time what they were going to express — the deep sadness or the great joy — is also repressed.

Remember that nature has made no difference. It has given men and women the same tear glands, of equal size. But if a man cries, everybody condemns him. “You are behaving like a woman,” they will say. You should say, “What can I do? Nature has given me tear glands. It is not my responsibility. I am simply enjoying my nature. Tears are my right.” All qualities should be available to everybody. There are men who become incapable of love because they are trained for certain qualities: “You have to be hard; competitive. Don’t show emotions, don’t be sentimental.” Now how do you expect a man who is not emotional, not sentimental, who is not allowed to feel...how can you expect him to love? And when he misses love, his life becomes miserable. And the same is happening on both sides.

Let all distinctions disappear. Everybody should be allowed everything that is naturally possible to the person whether man or woman. And we would have a richer world of richer people. From Beyond Enlightenment, courtesy Osho International Foundation, www.osho.com.  

The Temples of Love

The Asian Age , 28 February, 2013

Recently millions of people went to Allahabad for a holy dip in the Ganges. It was a gathering of the largest scale in India — really spectacular, though there was a tragic incident where 36 people died at the railway station. It is a reality that at major religious events organised in Hardwar or Mecca, people get crushed and killed due to indiscipline in crowds. Still people are drawn to these religious events.
The question is: Why do people go on pilgrimages where crowds are often unmanageable? To find peace, to sit and meditate and to feel the energy of those who have meditated there earlier. The power of collective prayer cannot be denied, even though the prayers are done in greed for the heaven and out of fear of hell after death. Today, most of the traditional temples have become centres of trade and politics. Regular prayers may be offered there, but these prayers are formal and out of fear of God. There’s no innocence in these prayers. In an atmosphere polluted with materialism and politics, meditation or true prayer is not possible.
If we are really interested in meditation and prayer, we need to look for a different kind of temple, one that is not man-made. And the good news is that such unpolluted temples of love still exist. You will find them in nature. Go and sit under a tree, breathe and meditate and you will be filled with love and prayer. The tree always gives life-energy. It will never ask you about your religion or caste. You can hug a tree and you will feel its heartbeat. At the same time, you will also feel your own heartbeat. But when you hug fellow human beings, you will not get the same feelings because nobody nowadays hugs anyone unconditionally. The tree is a temple of love, as it always gives.
Go to the mountains or the sea and sit in the open spaces. While you listen to the sound of mountains, streams, you’ll automatically start meditating. Meditation needs a certain kind of atmosphere, a space for the soul, where it can fly high in the sky. That’s possible only in nature.
Talking about the songs of the mystic saint Kabir, Osho says, “To live with nature is to live with God in an indirect way, because nature reflects God in a thousand and one ways. The trees and the call of the cuckoo and the winds in the pine trees and the rivers moving towards the ocean and the proud mountains standing in the sun and the starry night... it is impossible not to be reminded of some invisible hands. The ocean heaves, breathes; the whole existence is a growing phenomenon. It is not dead, it cannot be dead. Everything is growing. Because of this growing experience man has remained constantly aware of some invisible, mysterious force behind it all. That force is called God. God is not a person, but just a presence. Still when you go deep into the Himalayas, you again start feeling a kind of reverence, awe, wonder.”

Swami Chaitanya Keerti, editor of Osho World,
is the author of Osho Fragranc

That Gut Feeling

Hindustan Times, New Delhi, 17 February, 2013

Your intuition can save your life, says life coach BINDIYA MURGAI

Intuition is a recurring theme in spiritual thought. It is the conscious awareness of direct and immediate truth. The Vedas are said to have been revealed to ancient seers through meditation and intuition.

Lao Tzu says that intuitive understanding protects you from harm. This remains more relevant today than ever. In a crime-infested society, where women are increasingly the target, they have to take their safety into their own hands. And although common sense, security devices and pepper sprays should be part of every woman’s arsenal, there is one powerful weapon that they must always keep handy — their intuition!

Inbuilt Warning System
Intuition is a gut feeling or instinct that warns or guides you. It’s your inbuilt survival sensor, which detects danger before you are consciously aware of it. So never ignore it. Recognise it, respect it, and act on it. Avoid analysing your intuition; if your warning bells are ringing, there is danger lurking.

Think. Have you ever had a bad feeling about something, and then discovered that your intuition was right? Or changed your travel plans at the last minute because you had a bad feeling, only to find that the train you were to take had an accident? Or for that matter, knew who was calling you, even before answering the phone? All these situations are examples of your intuition at play.

Our brain processes 400 billion bits of information per second, but we are aware of only 2,000. That means our subconscious has access to a lot more than we are aware of; it is in a better position to see what’s coming, and the moment it finds something potentially threatening, it immediately transmits a signal in the form of an intuition.

Einstein said, “The intuitive mind is a sacred gift and the rational mind is a faithful servant. We have created a society that honours the servant and has forgotten the gift.”

People often fail to recognise intuition because they don’t know its signals. Intuition can come in the form of a physical sensation, a panic attack, a weird vibe, a chill down the spine, repulsion to a person or situation, goose bumps, butterflies in the stomach, verbal messages, or an inexplicable change in mood or environment.

Many rape victims have confided that they sensed something amiss about a person or a place, just prior to the crime. Rani (not her real name) was raped in broad daylight. She, later, told investigators that she got strange vibes from a fellow jogger. But since he was well-dressed, she told herself that she was being unnecessarily suspicious and so continued jogging. Minutes later, he pounced on her, raped her, and left her unconscious.

It’s important to accept that anyone can be a victim of crime, irrespective of how you travel, what you wear, or where you live. The ‘it won’t happen to me’ attitude will only prevent you from processing warning signals. Understand reality and take the right precautions.
Research shows that most attacks come with some kind of warning. A majority of crimes against women are committed by people known to the victim, but they tend to ignore the warnings bells. Stereotypes are another common barrier between you and your intuition. Thoughts like, he looks ‘decent’, can be deceptive. Social good manners often make us ignore our intuition, especially with seemingly friendly predators. Always err on the side of caution. If your gut says someone is ‘not right’, get away as fast as possible. 

The Best Defence
Predators can be very creative when it comes to luring and trapping their victims. They can pretend to be helpless, lost, offer help or even land up at your doorstep promising a job or a lucrative deal. Sometimes they hide in dark corners, making sounds of someone in distress. Be careful and alert. If you get a fleeting negative instinct, act on it. Call for help or get out of there.

Sometimes your intuition may not be sharp enough as you are not used to listening to it. Or because it’s drowned in the din of a hectic day. Besides, the predator may be a great ‘con artist’. But when you combine intuition with common sense, it’s sure shot safety.

Finally, the best self-defence is not to have to defend yourself at all! With intuition and common sense, most potentially dangerous situations can be avoided. So, promise yourself that you will always listen to your intuition and act on it. Osho says, “In the real journey of life, your own intuition is your only teacher.”

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Create A Womb Of Pure Love

Hindustan Times, New Delhi, 17 February, 2013

Go back to your original nature, says OSHO

Maitri bhavana is one of the most penetrating meditations. You need not be afraid of getting into some sort of self-hypnosis; it is not. In fact, it is a sort of de-hypnosis. It looks like hypnosis because it is the reverse process: you have come to me from your home and you walked the way; now going back, you will walk the same way.

The only difference will be that now your back will be towards me. The way will be the same, you will be the same, but your face was towards me while you were coming towards me; now your back will be towards me.

It is not a question now of being hypnotised or not hypnotised. You are already hypnotised. The whole process of society is a sort of hypnosis. Somebody is told that he is a Christian, and it is so continuously repeated that his mind is conditioned and he thinks himself a Christian. Somebody is Hindu, somebody is a Mohammedan — these are all hypnoses. You are already hypnotised. If you think you are miserable, this is hypnosis. If you think you have too many problems, this is hypnosis. Whatsoever you are is a sort of hypnosis. Society has given you those ideas, and now you are too full of those ideas and conditionings.

Feel Of Friendship 
Maitri bhavana is a de-hypnosis: it is an effort to bring back your natural mind; it is an effort to give you back your original face; it is an effort to bring you to the point where you were when you were born and society had not yet corrupted you.

When a child is born, he is in maitri bhavana. It means a great feeling of friendship, love, and compassion. When a child is born, he knows no hatred, he knows only love. Love is intrinsic; hatred he will learn later on; anger he will learn later on.

 Jealousy, possessiveness, envy, he will learn later on. These will be the things society will teach: how to be jealous, how to be full of hatred, how to be full of anger or violence. These things will be taught by society.

Experience Of Love
When the child is born, he is simple love. He has to be so because he has not known anything else. In the mother’s womb, he has not come across any enemy. He has lived in deep love for nine months, surrounded by love, nourished by love. He knows nobody who is inimical to him. He knows only the mother; he knows the mother’s love.

When he is born, his whole experience is of love, so how can you expect him to know anything about hatred? This love he brings with himself; this is the original face. Then there will be trouble, then, there will be many other experiences. He will start distrusting people. A newborn child is simply born with trust.

Children are trusting, but by and by, there will be experiences in which they will be deceived, in which they will get into trouble, in which they will be opposed, in which they will become afraid. By and by, they will learn all the tricks of the world. That’s what has happened to everybody, more or less.

De-hypnotise Yourself
Now, maitri bhavana is again creating the same situation: it is de-hypnosis. It is an effort to drop hatred, anger, jealousy, envy, and come back to the world as you had come in the first place. If you go on doing this meditation, first you start loving yourself — because you are closest to you than anybody else. Then you spread your love: your friendship, your compassion, feeling, well-wishing, benediction, blessings, you spread these to people you love — friends, lovers. Then, by and by, you spread these to more people that you don’t love so much, then people to whom you are indifferent —you neither love nor hate — then by and by to people you hate.

Slowly, you are de-hypnotising yourself. Slowly you are again creating a womb of love around yourself. The Beloved, courtesy, Osho International Foundation, www.osho.com