LISTEN TO OSHO SPEAK ON THIS MEDITATION
LOOK LOVINGLY ON SOME
OBJECT. DO NOT GO ON TO ANOTHER OBJECT. HERE IN THE MIDDLE OF THE
OBJECT -- THE BLESSING.
I should repeat it:
LOOK LOVINGLY ON SOME
OBJECT. DO NOT GO ON TO ANOTHER. Do not move to another object.
IN THE MIDDLE OF THIS OBJECT -- THE BLESSING.
LOOK LOVINGLY ON SOME
LOVINGLY is the key.
Have you ever looked lovingly at any object? You may say yes because
you do not know what it means to look lovingly at an object. You may
have looked lustfully at an object -- that is another thing. That is
totally different, diametrically opposite. So first, the difference;
try to feel the difference.
A beautiful face, a
beautiful body -- you look at it, and you feel that you are looking at
it lovingly. But why are you looking at it? Do you want to get
something out of it? Then it is lust, not love. Do you want to exploit
it? Then it is lust, not love. Then really, you are thinking of how to
use this body, how to possess it, how to make this body an instrument
for your happiness.
Lust means how to use
something for your happiness; love means your happiness is not at all
concerned. Really, lust means how to get something out of it and love
means how to give something. They are diametrically opposite.
If you see a
beautiful face and you feel love toward the face, the immediate
feeling in your consciousness will be how to do something to make this
face happy, how to do something to make this man or this woman happy.
The concern is not with yourself, the concern is with the other.
In love the other is
important; in lust you are important. In lust you are thinking how to
make the other your instrument; in love you are thinking how to become
an instrument yourself. In lust you are going to sacrifice the other;
in love you are going to sacrifice yourself. Love means giving; lust
means getting. Love is a surrender; lust is an aggression.
What you say is
meaningless. Even in lust you talk in terms of love. Your language is
not very meaningful, so do not be deceived. Look within, and then you
will come to understand that you have not once in your life looked
lovingly toward someone or some object.
distinction to be made: this sutra says, LOOK LOVINGLY ON SOME
Really, even if you
look lovingly at something material, insentient, the object will
become a person. If you look lovingly at it, your love is the key to
transform anything into a person. If you look lovingly at a tree, the
tree becomes a person.
Just the other day I
was talking with Vivek, a close disciple, and I told her that when we
move to the new ashram we will name every tree, because every tree is
a person. Have you ever heard of anyone naming a tree? No one names a
tree because no one feels love for it. If the case were otherwise, a
tree would become a person. Then it is not just one in a crowd, it
You name dogs and
cats. When you name a dog and you call it Tiger or something else, the
dog becomes a person. Then it is not just one dog amongst other dogs,
it has a personality; you have created a person. Whenever you look
lovingly at something, it becomes a person.
And the contrary is
also true. Whenever you look with lustful eyes toward a person, the
person becomes an object, a thing. That is why lustful eyes are
repulsive -- because no one likes to become a thing. When you look at
your wife with lustful eyes -- or at any other woman, or man, with
lustful eyes -- the other feels hurt. What are you doing really? You
are changing a person, a living person, into a dead instrument. You
are thinking of how to "use," and the person is killed.
That is why lustful
eyes are repulsive, ugly. When you look at someone with love, the
other is raised. He becomes unique. Suddenly he becomes a person. A
person cannot be replaced; a thing can be replaced. A `thing' means
that which is replaceable; a `person' means that which cannot be
replaced: there is no possibility of replacing him or her. A person is
unique; a thing is not unique.
Love makes anything
unique. That is why without love you never feel like a person. Unless
someone loves you deeply, you never feel that you have any uniqueness.
You are just one in a crowd -- just a number, a datum. You can be
For example, if you
are a clerk in an office or a teacher in a school or a professor in a
university, your professor-hood is replaceable. Another professor will
replace you; he can replace you at any moment because you are just
used there as a professor. You have a functional meaning and
If you are a clerk,
someone else is easily able to do the work. The work will not wait for
you. If you die this moment, the next moment someone will replace you
and the mechanism will continue. You were just a figure --
another figure will do. You were just a utility.
But then someone
falls in love with this clerk or this professor. Suddenly the clerk is
no more a clerk; he has become a unique person. If he dies, then the
beloved cannot replace him. He is irreplaceable. Then the whole world
may go on in the same way, but the one who was in love cannot be the
same. This uniqueness, this being a person, happens through love.
This sutra says, LOOK
LOVINGLY AT SOME OBJECT.
It makes no
distinction between an object and a person. There is no need, because
when you look lovingly anything will become a person. The very look
You may or may not
have observed what happens when you drive a particular car, say a
Fiat. There are thousands and thousands and thousands of Fiats exactly
similar, but your car, if you are in love with it, becomes unique -- a
person. It cannot be replaced; a relationship is created. Now you feel
this car as a person. If something goes wrong... a slight sound, and
you feel it. And cars are very temperamental. You know the temper of
your car -- when it feels good and when it feels bad. The car becomes,
by and by, a person.
Why? If there is a
love relationship, anything becomes a person. If there is a lust
relationship, then a person will become a thing. And this is one of
the most inhuman acts man can do -- to make someone a thing.
LOOK LOVINGLY AT SOME
So what is one to do?
When you look lovingly, what are you to do? The first thing: forget
yourself. Forget yourself completely! Look at a flower and forget
yourself completely. Let the flower be; you become completely absent.
Feel the flower, and a deep love will flow from your consciousness
toward the flower. And let your consciousness be filled with only one
thought -- how you can help this flower to flower more, to become more
beautiful, to become more blissful. What can you do?
It is not meaningful
whether you can do or not; that is not relevant. The feeling of what
you can do -- this pain, this deep ache over what you can do to make
this flower more beautiful, more alive, more flowering -- is
meaningful. Let this thought reverberate into your whole being. Let
every fiber of your body and mind feel it. You will be transfixed in
an ecstasy, and the flower will become a person.
DO NOT GO ON TO
You cannot go. If you
are in a love relationship, you cannot go. If you love someone in this
group, then you forget the whole crowd; only one face remains. Really,
you do not see anyone else, you see only one face. All the others are
there, but they are subliminal -- just on the periphery of your
consciousness. They are NOT. They are just shadows; only one face
remains. If you love someone then only that face remains, so you
Do not go to another
object, remain with one. Remain with a roseflower or remain with a
beloved's face. Remain there loving, flowing, with just one heart,
with the feeling of, "What can I do to make the loved one
HERE IN THE MIDDLE OF
THE OBJECT -- THE BLESSING.
And when this is the
case you are absent, not concerned with yourself at all, not selfish,
not thinking in terms of your pleasure, your gratification. You have
forgotten yourself completely, and you are just thinking in terms of
the other. The other has become the center of your love; your
consciousness is flowing toward the other. With deep compassion, with
a deep feeling of love, you are thinking, "What can I do to make
the loved one blissful?" In this state, suddenly,
HERE IN THE
MIDDLE OF THE OBJECT -- THE BLESSING. Suddenly, as a by-product, the
blessing comes to you. Suddenly you become centered.
paradoxical because this sutra says to forget yourself completely, not
to be self-centered, to move to the other completely. Buddha is
reported to have said continuously that whenever you are praying, pray
for others -- never for yourself. Otherwise the prayer is just
One man came to
Buddha and he said, "I accept your teaching, but only one thing
is very difficult to accept. You say that whenever we do prayer we are
not to think about ourselves, we are not to ask anything about
ourselves. We have to say, `Whatsoever may be the result of my prayer,
let that result be distributed to all. If blessing happens, let it be
distributed to all.'"
The man said,
"This is okay, but can I make only one exception? Not to my
immediate neighbor -- he is my enemy. Let this blessing be distributed
to all except to my immediate neighbor."
The mind is
self-centered, so Buddha said, "Your prayer is useless. Nothing
will come out of it unless you are ready to give all, to distribute
all, and then all will be yours."
In love you are to
forget yourself. It looks paradoxical: then when and how will the
centering happen? By being totally concerned with the other, with the
other's happiness, when you forget yourself completely and only the
other remains there, suddenly you are filled with bliss -- the
Why? Because when you
are not concerned with yourself you become vacant, empty; the inner
space is created. When your mind is totally concerned with the other,
you become mindless within. Then there are no thoughts inside. And
then this thought -- "How can I be helpful? How can I create more
bliss? How can the other be more happy?" -- cannot continue any
more, because really, there is nothing you can do. This thought
becomes a stop. There is nothing you can do. What can you do? If you
think you can do, you are still thinking in terms of yourself -- ego.
With the love object
one becomes totally helpless -- remember this. Whenever you love
someone you feel totally helpless. That is the agony of love: one
cannot feel what he can do. He wants to do everything, he wants to
give the whole universe to the lover or the beloved -- but what can he
do? If you think that you can do this or that, you are still not in a
love relationship. Love is very helpless, absolutely helpless, and
that helplessness is the beauty, because in that helplessness you are
Love someone and you
will feel helpless; hate someone and you can do something. Love
someone and you are absolutely helpless -- because what can you do?
Whatsoever you can do seems insignificant, meaningless; it is never
enough. Nothing can be done. And when one feels that nothing can be
done, one feels that one is helpless. When one wants to do everything
and feels nothing can be done, mind stops. In this helplessness
surrender happens. You are empty. That is why love becomes a deep
Really, if you love
someone, no other meditation is needed. But because no one loves, one
hundred and twelve methods are needed -- and even they may not be
Someone was here the
other day. He was telling me, "It gives me much hope. I have
heard for the first time from you that there are one hundred and
twelve methods. It gives me much hope, but somewhere a depression also
comes into the mind: only one hundred and twelve methods? And if these
one hundred and twelve methods don't work for me, then is there no one
hundred and thirteenth?"
And he is right. He
is right! If these one hundred and twelve methods do not work for you,
then there is no go. So as he suggests, a depression also follows
hope. But really, methods are needed because the basic method is
missing. If you can love, no method is needed.
Love itself is the
greatest method, but love is difficult -- in a way impossible. Love
means putting yourself out from your consciousness, and in the same
place, where your ego has been in existence, putting someone else.
Replacing yourself by someone else means love -- as if now you are not
and only the other is.
Jean Paul Sartre says
that the other is the hell, and he is right. He is right because the
other creates only hell for you. But he is wrong also because if the
other can be hell, the other can he heaven. If you live through lust,
the other is a hell because then you are trying to kill that person.
You are trying to make that person a thing. Then that person will also
react and will try to make you a thing, and that creates hell.
So every husband and
every wife, they are creating hell for each other because each one is
trying to possess the other. Possession is possible only with things,
never with persons. You can only be possessed by a person; you can
never possess a person. A thing can be possessed, but you try to
possess persons. Through that effort persons become things. If I make
you into a thing, you will react. Then I am your enemy. Then you will
try to make a thing out of me -- that creates hell.
You are sitting in
your room alone, and then suddenly you become aware that someone is
peeping through the keyhole. Observe minutely what happens. Have you
felt any change? And why do you feel angry about this peeping Tom? He
is not doing anything to you -- just peeping. Why do you feel angry?
He has changed you into a thing. He is observing; he has made you into
a thing, into an object. That gives you an uneasiness.
And the same will
happen to him if you come near the keyhole and look through it. The
other will become shattered, shocked. He was a subject just a moment
before: he was the observer and you were the observed. Now suddenly he
has been caught. He has been observed observing you, and now he has
become a thing.
When someone is
observing you, suddenly you feel your freedom has been disturbed,
destroyed. That is why, unless you are in love with someone, you
cannot stare. That stare becomes ugly and violent -- unless you are in
love. If you are in love then a stare is a beautiful thing, because
your stare is not changing the other into a thing. Then you can look
directly into the eyes; then you can go deep into the eyes of the
other. You are not changing him into a thing. Rather, through your
love your look is making him a person. That is why only the stares of
lovers are beautiful; otherwise stares are ugly.
there is a time limit. And you all know, observe and you will come to
know, what the time limit is for how long you can stare into someone's
eyes, if he is a stranger. There is a time limit. One moment more, and
the other will become angry. Just a passing look in public can be
pardoned because it seems as if you were just seeing, not looking.
A look is a deep
thing. If I just see you when passing, no relationship is created. Or
I am passing and you look at me, just while passing -- no offense is
meant so it is okay. But if you suddenly stand and look at me, you
become an observer. Then your look will disturb me and I will feel
insulted: "What are you doing? I am a person, not a thing. This
is not the way to look."
Because of this,
clothes have become so meaningful. Only when you love someone can you
be easily naked, because the moment you are naked your whole body
becomes an object. Someone can look at your whole body, and if he is
not in love with you his eyes will turn your whole body, your whole
being, into an object. But when you are in love with someone you can
be naked without feeling that you are naked. Rather, you would like to
be naked, because you would like this transforming love to transform
your whole body into a person.
Whenever you are
turning someone into a thing, that act is immoral. But if you are
filled with love, then in that love-filled moment with any object this
phenomenon, this blessing, is possible. It happens.
IN THE MIDDLE OF THE
OBJECT -- THE BLESSING.
Suddenly you have
forgotten yourself -- the other was there. Then when the right moment
comes, when you are no longer present, absolutely absent, the other
will also become absent. And between the two the blessing happens.
That is what lovers feel. That blessing is also because of an unknown,
When two lovers are
there, by and by they both become absent. A pure existence remains --
without any egos, without any conflict... just a communion. In that
communion one feels blissful. It is wrongly inferred that the other
has given that bliss to you. That bliss has come because unknowingly
you have fallen into a deep meditative technique.
You can do it
consciously -- and when you do it consciously it goes deeper, because
then you are not obsessed with the object. This is happening every
day. If you love someone, you feel blissful not because of him or her,
but because of love. And why because of love? Because this phenomenon
happens -- this sutra happens.
But then you become
obsessed. Then you think that because of A, because of A's proximity,
nearness, because of A's love this blessing happens. Then you think,
"I must possess A, because without A being present I may not be
able to get this blessing again." You become jealous. If someone
else possesses A, then he will be blissful and you will feel
miserable, so you want to take away all possibilities of A being
possessed by anyone else. A should be possessed only by you, because
you have glimpsed a different world through him. Then the moment you
try to possess, you will destroy the whole beauty and the whole
When the lover is
possessed, love is gone. Then the lover is just a thing. You can use
it, but the blessing will never come again, because that blessing was
coming when the other was a person. The other was made, created: you
created the person in the other, and the other created the person in
you. No one was an object. Both were subjectivities meeting -- two
persons meeting, not one person and one thing.
But the moment you
possess, this will become impossible. And mind will try to possess
because mind thinks in terms of greed: "One day bliss has
happened, so it must happen to me every day. So I must possess."
But the bliss happens because there is no possession. And the bliss
happens not because of the other, really, but because of you. Remember
this, the bliss happens because of you. Because you are so absorbed in
the other, the bliss happens.
It can happen with a
roseflower, it can happen with a rock, it can happen with the trees,
it can happen with anything. Once you know the situation in which it
happens, it can happen anywhere. If you know that you are not, and
with a deep love your consciousness has moved to the other -- to the
trees, to the sky, to the stars, to anyone; when your total
consciousness is addressed to the other it leaves you, it moves away
from you -- in that absence of the self is the blessing.