LISTEN TO OSHO SPEAK ON THIS MEDITATION
"EVEN REMEMBERING UNION, WITHOUT THE EMBRACE, THE
Once you know this, even the partner is not needed. You can simply
remember the act and enter into it. But first you must have the
feeling. If you know the feeling, you can enter into the act without
the partner. This is a little difficult, but it happens. And unless it
happens, you go on being dependent, a dependency is created. For so
many reasons it happens. If you have had the feeling, if you have
known the moment when you were not there but only a vibrating energy
had become one and there was a circle with the partner, in that moment
there was no partner. In that moment only you are, and for the partner
you are not: only he or she is. That oneness is centered within you;
the partner is no more there. And it is easier for women to have this
feeling because they are always making love with closed eyes.
During this technique, it is good if you have your eyes closed. Then
only an inner feeling of a circle, only an inner feeling of oneness,
is there. Then just remember it. Close your eyes; lie down as if you
are with your partner. Just remember and start feeling it. Your body
will begin to shake and vibrate. Allow it! Forget completely that the
other is not there. Move as if the other is present. Only in the
beginning is it "as if." Once you know, then it is not
"as if," then the other is there.
Move as if you are actually going into the love act. Do whatsoever you
would have done with your partner. Scream, move, shake. Soon the
circle will be there, and this circle is miraculous. Soon you will
feel that the circle is created, but now this circle is not created
with a man and woman. If you are man, then the whole universe has
become woman; if you are woman, then the whole universe has become
man. Now you are in a deep communion with the existence itself, and
the door, the other, is no more there.
The other is simply a door. While making love to a woman, you are
really making love to existence itself. The woman is just a door, the
man is just a door. The other is just a door for the whole, but you
are in such a hurry you never feel it. If you remain in communion, in
deep embrace for hours together, you will forget the other and the
other will just become an extension of the whole. Once this technique
is known you can use it alone, and when you can use it alone it gives
you a new freedom -- freedom from the other.
It really happens that the whole existence becomes the other -- your
beloved, your lover -- and then this technique can be used
continuously, and one can remain in constant communion with the
existence. And then you can do it in other dimensions also. Walking in
the morning, you can do it. Then you are in communion with the air,
with the rising sun and the stars and the trees. Staring at the stars
in the night, you can do it. Looking at the moon, you can do it. You
can be in the sex act with the whole universe once you know how it
But it is good to start with human beings because they are nearest to
you -- the nearest part of the universe. But they are dispensable. You
can take a jump and forget the door completely -- "EVEN
REMEMBERING UNION, THE TRANSFORMATION" -- and you WILL be
transformed, you will become new.
Tantra uses sex as a vehicle. It is energy; it can be used as a
vehicle. It can transform you, and it can give you transcendental
states. But as we are using sex, it looks difficult for us -- because
we are using it in a very wrong way, and the wrong way is not natural.
Even animals are better than us: they are using it in a natural way.
Our ways are perverted. Constant hammering on the human mind that sex
is sin has created a deep barrier within you. You never allow yourself
a total let-go. Something is always standing aloof condemning, even
for the new generation. They may say they are not burdened, obsessed,
that sex is not a taboo for them, but you cannot unburden your
unconscious so easily. It has been built over centuries and centuries;
the whole human past is there. So while you may not be condemning it
as sin consciously, the unconscious is there constantly condemning it.
You are never totally in it. Something is always left out. That
left-out part creates the split.
Tantra says move in it totally. Just forget yourself, your
civilization, your religion, your culture, your ideology. Forget
everything. Just move in the sex act: move in it totally; do not leave
anything out. Become absolutely non-thinking. Only then does the
awareness happen that you have become one with someone. And this
feeling of oneness can then be detached from the partner and it can be
used with the whole universe. You can be in a sex act with a tree,
with the moon, with anything. Once, you know how to create this
circle, it can be created with anything -- even without anything.
You can create this circle within yourself because man is both man and
woman, and woman is both woman and man. You are both because you were
created by two, You were created by man and woman both, so half of you
remains the other. You can forget everything completely, and the
circle can be created within you. Once the circle is created within
you -- your man is meeting your woman, the inner woman is meeting the
inner man -- you are in an embrace within yourself. And only when this
circle is created is real celibacy attained. Otherwise all celibacies
are just perversions, and then they create their own problems. When
this circle is created inside, you are freed.
This is what tantra says: "Sex is the deepest bondage, yet it can
be used as a vehicle for the highest freedom." Tantra says poison
can be used as medicine, but wisdom is needed. So do not condemn
anything. Rather, use it. And do not be against anything. Find out
ways how it can be used and transformed. Tantra is a deep, total
acceptance of life. It is the only approach of its kind. All over the
world, in all the centuries that have gone by, tantra is unique. It
says don't throw anything and don't be against anything and don't
create any conflict, because with any conflict you will be destructive
All the religions are against sex, afraid of it, because it is such a
great energy. Once you are in it you are no more, and then the current
will take you anywhere. That is why the fear. So create a barrier in
which you and the current become two, and do not allow this vital
energy to have any possession over you: be the master of it.
Only tantra says that this mastery is going to be false, diseased,
pathological, because you cannot really be divided with this current.
You are it! So all divisions will be false, arbitrary, and basically,
no division is possible because you are the current -- a part and
parcel of it, just a wave in it. You can become frozen and you can
separate yourself from the current, but that frozenness will be
deadness. And humanity has become dead. No one is really alive; you
are just dead weights floating in the stream. Melt!
Tantra says try to melt. Do not become like icebergs: melt and become
one with the river. Becoming one with the river, feeling one with the
river, merging in the river, be aware and there will be
transformation. There IS transformation. Transformation is not through
conflict; it is through awareness. These three techniques are very,
very scientific, but then sex becomes something other than what you
know. Then it is not a temporary relief; then it is not throwing
energy out. Then there is no end to it. It becomes a meditative